Foster Care

5 Ways the Church Can Foster Healthy Attachment in Adoptive Families

5 Ways the Church Can Foster Healthy Attachment in Adoptive Families

Many Christians build their families through adoption out of loving concern for orphans and to live the faith James describes. I hope churches continue to bring the orphan crisis to light. And, as they do, I pray we—as the Church—can come alongside the families whose children’s past trauma continues to cause the “distress” James 1:27 mentions.

The evangelicals I wish the world would see

The evangelicals I wish the world would see

The evangelicals I know care about the people and causes that Jesus cared about during his earthly ministry. They may not necessarily fit the narrative that many in the media would like to propagate about our community. I can’t help but think that evangelicals would have a very different image in our larger culture if more people had the opportunity to get to know some of the folks I was surrounded by during the last three days.

The man on the pier

The man on the pier

The issue of “orphan care” has become rather en vogue within the Church — even to the point of having an “Orphan Sunday.”  And that’s all good and well, but if we are not careful, the Church could be the crowd on the shore.  But what if, instead of saying “we only know how to say jump,” the crowd had rushed to the end of the pier, with arms outstretched, yelling “Hang on! Help is on the way! Don’t lose hope!

Church, we can’t not know about adoption and special needs!

Church, we can’t not know about adoption and special needs!

Our church community didn’t know what we would need, but they said yes with us: yes to loving through the brokenness, yes to being faithful to the ones (me included) who need to learn to trust once again, yes to a bit more chaos in our row during worship, yes to choosing to do good for young ones for whom others hadn’t always chosen good in their recent past.

What if the church destroyed the foster care system as we know it?

What if the church destroyed the foster care system as we know it?

If one family from every three churches committed to adopt one child and those three churches committed to support that family, there wouldn't be children waiting to be adopted in foster care.

Does love heal all wounds from childhood trauma?

Does love heal all wounds from childhood trauma?

And while we pray for healing to come and trust that it will one day, here or in heaven, we keep on loving. Because that’s what our kids need, and that’s what our Father has modeled for us as parents (and as church leaders partnering with families like mine).

Please don’t say “all kids do that” to adoptive and foster families

Please don’t say “all kids do that” to adoptive and foster families

Please, don’t say “all kids do that,” because even if behaviors look the same, that doesn’t mean they are the same for our kids from hard places.