Families

Questions Church Leaders Wish They Could Ask Out Loud

Questions Church Leaders Wish They Could Ask Out Loud

As a young mom of four children, two of whom have disabilities, including severe intellectual impairment, I ask God tough questions. I imagine many ministry leaders wonder some of the same things I do, but fear asking. It’s natural to wonder and it’s okay to ask. It’s in wrestling with such questions, pressing into Jesus in prayer and exploration of His Word we not only find answers but gain a deeper understanding of who Jesus intended the Church to be.

Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get on Your Knees

Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get on Your Knees

As we journeyed through different challenges with our son Joey, one of the dearest things was knowing that others were praying for us. When someone told us they were praying for us, it made our day. Just to know another person or a family had our back in prayer meant the world to us. 

Seeing Mother’s and Father’s Day Through the Eyes of Adoptive Families

Seeing Mother’s and Father’s Day Through the Eyes of Adoptive Families

Whether Mother’s and Father’s Days are acknowledged as part of your church’s worship service or not, we’re wise to recognize the state of mind and emotion present in adoptive and foster parents and their children on these days. It’s important to recognize and express sensitivity toward each member of these families.

Loving One Another for the Long Haul

Loving One Another for the Long Haul

Two of the most important aspects of doing ministry for and with the disability community are learning how to create long term reciprocal relationships, and choosing to understand the world through the lens of the disability community.

How Distractions Can Grow a More Loving Church

How Distractions Can Grow a More Loving Church

The church in this story has no official disability ministry, no “program.” They try very hard to organically meet the needs of individual families who worship there. This is a church-in-progress. It’s a church family becoming an increasing reflection of Christ; God is growing fruit. They realize there is a lot they don’t know or understand. And they’re excited to learn and grow as a community.

Waving The Surrender Flag

Waving The Surrender Flag

As young parents on this special needs journey, we retired at the end of every day waving our white surrender flag! It wasn’t that we were quitting but we certainly knew we were done and had nothing left at the end of that day. This is where the church can be an invaluable source of help.

Tips for Communicating with Special-Needs Parents

Tips for Communicating with Special-Needs Parents

In order to communicate with care and compassion, ministry leaders need to understand the five phases of special-needs parenting. In the video below, I give an overview of the phases, share what families need from their church in each phase, and give communication tips that are effective no matter what phase parents are in.

Church, Help Us Make Decisions that Bring Life and Peace

Church, Help Us Make Decisions that Bring Life and Peace

We need friends and churches who will stand with us valuing the inherent worth, dignity and purpose of our loved ones with chronic health concerns, disabilities and aging-related conditions. But we hope to receive respect, grace and unwavering support when our conclusions are drawn.

Bigger Fish to Fry!

Bigger Fish to Fry!

We need to learn what works for our family, and it’s not always us who can take the reins to start a ministry when our plates are so full with the needs before us. Thus, when a church has a ministry to special needs, the thinking and the work has been taken off our plate. We can embrace the opportunities before us, which lightens our load and helps us in this journey.