Special-Needs Parent: You Can't Do It All

Be still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10

How many of you think you are superwomen or supermen?

You are amazing at multi-tasking maybe?

You can drive all over the place dropping and picking up kids, taking them to medical appointments, grocery shopping, helping at school... I could go on and on.

We say yes to most things because we want to help or we aren't able to because our plate is already overflowing.

The Lord has really been talking to me lately about slowing down. He has been telling me that is is ok to not be as busy as I have been in years. He keeps wanting me to focus on rest and rejuvenation. I keep fighting it because I have been going non-stop for about nine years straight. My mind has not stopped.


I absolutely love to help others. I love to see others achieve great things, whether it is an employee of mine or students gaining independence or a new skill, as well as seeing parents faces when their kids make great progress. It brings me such joy that I can hardly describe or express it. I love it so much that I go on overdrive making this happen. Like most of us we have a long list of our children's needs that we need to address daily. I try so hard, that sometimes I don't take care of my own self. I am the last on the list. That has been the case for many years.

It is time for me to rest. It is time for you to rest too.

Let me explain what I mean about rest though.

I am not talking about taking a nap, or taking a weeks vacation. I am talking about resting your mind. I am talking about spending more time with Christ.

Resting can mean:

  • Quiet time with Him, not reading or praying just being still and listening
  • Writing a letter to someone encouraging them
  • Writing in a gratitude journal
  • Taking a walk with no music or anything

I know some of these are literally tasks too, but they help us rest. They help us to slow down.

You can't do it all.

  • It Is Okay To Say No

Most of us take on way too much and then are super stressed with our full days. Sometimes we have to say no. It is okay to say no. You are better to others when you set boundaries of your time, ahead of time, so it is easier to say no.

  • Treat It Like A Budget

Think of it similar to a budget. You set your budget and you are supposed to stay in your budget. You set your time boundaries budget. You can only add in so many new things at so many new times. This will help you to limit things that you add to your schedules.

  • It Is Okay To Ask For Help

When we reach out to others and ask for help it 1) Relieves a burden for you and helps to give you a brief break and 2) It helps someone else to serve.

You can start today.





Slow down already!


Patty Myers, www.building-pathways.com